Love this Kendall and so much resonates - focussing on strength training, nourishing myself and daily writing have been game changers for me this year as well. Hoping to add the garden thing into the mix for 2025!
I love this Kendall and totally resonate with you on the lonely part. I feel geographically so far from my historical networks and I know it wouldn't necessarily feel any more connected if i was there. But I do need to make more of an effort to leave my isolated solo bubble. Thank you for sharing you are totally right, when shared we all feel less lonely.
I’m really working hard on being more honest with myself and others about feeling lonely. I think I’ve felt embarrassed to admit it but I know putting it out there is the first step to doing something about it! Xx
Honestly, I think so many of us feel it. I felt much lonelier in my third mat leave than my first and berated myself that I should know what I’m getting myself into more!
Although I can’t imagine baby groups were plentiful in rural France. I felt lonelier in my second mat leave than my first as I had way less mum pals with babies of a similar age.
But even now I’m back at work I still feel lonely often- that’s why I’m keen to get in more people’s gardens this year- I’m craving irl human connection!! I’ve also started doing some local networking- terrifying at first but actually really fun.
Yesterday I wrote in my journal that I wanted to start pilates but didn’t know where to start, given that most classes here are in person so can’t easily fit around parent of small children life & on YouTube there is so (too) much choice. Excellent timing of your recommendation!! Thanks for sharing these learnings/habits- resonated with much of it - esp towards the end about layering rather than piling on all the habits at once!
Hi fellow adhd brain 😊 You’ve inspired me to give Pilates a go. I did an in-person class years ago and found it so difficult I was put off. And I love that you’re factoring in your needs and needs now - the good girl conditioning plus our RSD makes it really tough but so worth it x
I love the variety here and the way you have written it unapologetically, but without forcing it down our throats as if we should be doing the same. This is the kind of approach that inspires us to make determined efforts and changes for the better, rather than shaming us into doing so. I hope you continue them in 2025 and beyond.
I desperately need to get into a habit of saying 'yes' a bit more - I am my own worst enemy when it comes to feeling isolated. I've perfected saying no! But 2025 is a year of better thinking, doing and being, I am sure of it.
I think it’s easy to default to no when you are so busy juggling so many things or when like me socialising does tire you out. I like to sit down with my diary at this time of year, look at the whole year on one page and mark the dates that I have something fun/ social planned and then fill any gaps.
In 2025 I’m aiming for 1 ‘travel’ a month and then 3 fun/ social things a month. Defo built up to this over time too! Xx
Love this Kendall and so much resonates - focussing on strength training, nourishing myself and daily writing have been game changers for me this year as well. Hoping to add the garden thing into the mix for 2025!
It’s funny how the basic things make all the difference isn’t it? So excited to get going on your Garden Glow Up! Xx
I love this Kendall and totally resonate with you on the lonely part. I feel geographically so far from my historical networks and I know it wouldn't necessarily feel any more connected if i was there. But I do need to make more of an effort to leave my isolated solo bubble. Thank you for sharing you are totally right, when shared we all feel less lonely.
I’m really working hard on being more honest with myself and others about feeling lonely. I think I’ve felt embarrassed to admit it but I know putting it out there is the first step to doing something about it! Xx
Honestly, I think so many of us feel it. I felt much lonelier in my third mat leave than my first and berated myself that I should know what I’m getting myself into more!
Although I can’t imagine baby groups were plentiful in rural France. I felt lonelier in my second mat leave than my first as I had way less mum pals with babies of a similar age.
But even now I’m back at work I still feel lonely often- that’s why I’m keen to get in more people’s gardens this year- I’m craving irl human connection!! I’ve also started doing some local networking- terrifying at first but actually really fun.
Zero baby groups and for a while zero confidence in speaking french but finding my way more now!
Yesterday I wrote in my journal that I wanted to start pilates but didn’t know where to start, given that most classes here are in person so can’t easily fit around parent of small children life & on YouTube there is so (too) much choice. Excellent timing of your recommendation!! Thanks for sharing these learnings/habits- resonated with much of it - esp towards the end about layering rather than piling on all the habits at once!
Oh yay- delighted to have been able to help. They do regular challenges you can join in with too which helps me stay accountable!
My default setting was always to try and do it all at once- I think I’ve finally retrained my brain (maybe 😉)
Let me know how you find Fluidform 😍
Hi fellow adhd brain 😊 You’ve inspired me to give Pilates a go. I did an in-person class years ago and found it so difficult I was put off. And I love that you’re factoring in your needs and needs now - the good girl conditioning plus our RSD makes it really tough but so worth it x
Hello! Yay for another Pilates convert!
The thing I love about Fluidform is you can filter by beginner/ intermediate/ advanced.
And perfect for us ADHDers is that they run challenges that you can join. Give me the gamification any day and I’m yours 🤣🤣
Yes to making gamification work for us!
I love the variety here and the way you have written it unapologetically, but without forcing it down our throats as if we should be doing the same. This is the kind of approach that inspires us to make determined efforts and changes for the better, rather than shaming us into doing so. I hope you continue them in 2025 and beyond.
I desperately need to get into a habit of saying 'yes' a bit more - I am my own worst enemy when it comes to feeling isolated. I've perfected saying no! But 2025 is a year of better thinking, doing and being, I am sure of it.
xx
I think it’s easy to default to no when you are so busy juggling so many things or when like me socialising does tire you out. I like to sit down with my diary at this time of year, look at the whole year on one page and mark the dates that I have something fun/ social planned and then fill any gaps.
In 2025 I’m aiming for 1 ‘travel’ a month and then 3 fun/ social things a month. Defo built up to this over time too! Xx